Dear Coleen, I started seeing this amazing girl from uni a few weeks ago. We actually share a house with four other people and didn’t know each other at all before she moved in with her friend at the end of last year.
I’m so attracted to her physically and as a person – she’s got it all.
My problem is, the sex is bad. It’s awkward every time and almost feels like we’re both 16 again and virgins.
It’s the only thing that’s off, but it’s a big thing.
Do you have any advice?
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Well, maybe you’re just not compatible sexually and the chemistry just isn’t there.
But before you chuck in the towel, try talking to her about it. Maybe she lacks confidence or experience and is used to someone else taking the lead. Maybe she’s feeling a little self-conscious.
Look, I know it’s really hard to talk about sex, but if you really like her then I think you should give it a go.
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You don’t have to say it’s rubbish (cue confidence plummeting even more), but you can start by asking her what she likes in bed (and what she doesn’t like) and even talk about previous experiences.
Talking about sex can actually be really sexy.
Also, when you’re in bed together, ask her what she wants and what feels good – again, very sexy!